A step parent IS a very big deal no matter how old your children are, and unfortunately they can be given the power to make or break a good family relationship, as is the situation in my own family.

I am very thankful the person  I chose to bring into my kids lives not only respects and loves my children, but truly respected their father enough to allow him to be a big part of our daily life so he could stay close to his children.   I realize it is a rare thing to happen with in a family, but also a gift not to be taken lightly.

I am not saying David is a saint,  but I recognize it takes a very sincere and a good hearted person to see and understand how important it was for us to all get along and do what is best for our "entire family".  I know he made some personal sacrifices of his own to live with my kids father around.  BUT, he really was ok with it, they got along great and became good friends and family too.  Now, neither one of those two things exist between them after eleven years.   

Unfortunately the same cannot be said for the kids dad because he picked a person who is polar opposite of my husband, but I wont expand on that here because I am so upset over the way things turned out, I just don't have it in me to use  nice words right now.   I am pretty sure people reading this and some of the past blogs I've written on this subject, get it anyway.

There will be a struggle ahead for this family because of the animosity we now live with.  But to some people I suppose this is easier to accept.  The small minded piece of society that believes exes shouldn't get along will be very happy, we appear more normal and that is where their comfort zone is.

Some accept baggage and some just don't, only are sly enough to make it seem like they do.  Intuition has never in this lifetime done me wrong and I've always had a very strong one.  Trust me,  I know what's coming................